The Rhythm of Speaking
Years ago, one of my coaching said to me, “Craig, you have a rhythm when you speak. How can I get a rhythm into my speeches?”
I have to admit, at the time, I was stumped for an answer. I really hadn’t thought much about it. However, a few months later, it hit me. Speaking is certainly a lot like music and there is a rhythm to it.
The Advantage to Having Rhythm in your Speech?
There is also a major benefit to having a rhythm in your speech. Can you guess what that is?
It makes the speech more memorable!
Think about it. Aren’t there some songs you haven’t heard for years but, if you heard them today, you would remember the words? That’s because music has that kind of power. The rhythm helps deliver the message. Speaking can have a similar power if it’s rhythmic.
Proof of the Power of the Rhythm
Just the other day I received a phone call from a prospect who said, “Craig, I saw you speak 10 years ago and I remember when you said, ‘People buy-into what they help create.’ Well, I need some buy-in from my staff today so I want to bring you in to speak.”
Wow, 10 years! Believe it or not, I’m sure the repetition and the rhythm behind the points I drove home that day had a lot to do with why he still remembered them.
Let’s look at how you can have Rhythm in your Speaking
When I was in middle school, I remember our music teacher showing us how to put a song together. Today I look at speaking in a very similar way.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not a musician nor do I pretend to be. After all, when people hear me sing they say, “I’m glad you can speak.” However, the way a very simple song is put together has similarities with the way a speech can be put together…especially a keynote speech.
Speaking of Singing
Here’s what I remember about the structure of a song. It’s what is regularly called the AABA form.
Verse A
Chorus
Verse A
Chorus
Bridge
Verse A
Chorus
Speaking of Speaking
Now let’s look at the way a speech can be put together compared to the song.
Verse A – This is similar to the first story of your speech
Chorus – This is the Foundational Phrase (or takeaway message) of your first story
Verse A - This is the second story of your speech
Chorus – This includes call backs to the Foundational Phrases of your first and second stories
Bridge – According to Wikipedia, in music, the “…bridge is a contrasting section which also prepares for the return of the original material section.” In other words, it is not the same as the verses but it gets you back to the verses afterwards. What does this mean for speaking?
I strongly suggest at this point that you depart from your stories and head to something different like a short activity, some questions for your audience, a discuss and debrief, or something that will change the rhythm of the speech. This keeps your audience on their toes and energizes them.
One of the ideas I learned from Ed Tate is that once people get too used to your rhythm of speech, they start to tune you out. Therefore, it’s important to change your rhythm at times and “taking it to the bridge” will help with that.
Verse A – Once you’ve transitioned back from the bridge, you can tell your third story.
Chorus – This includes call backs to the Foundational Phrases from your three stories. When you repeat these phrases, it’s similar to the repetition of the chorus. Aren’t there some choruses you can’t get out of your head? Guess what? By repeating your Foundational Phrases throughout the rhythm of your speech, you will make them stick.
The Other Key to Having a Rhythm to your Speech
Here’s the biggest key I learned for having a rhythm to your speech:
Silence!
That’s right, it’s not what you say; it’s what you don’t say that matters. It also matters when you don’t say it. This involves timing.
I’m consistently reminded of something I read years ago that, through research, I found was said by the French Composer Claude Debussy.
Music is the silence between the notes
Later, through reading Deepak Chopra and others, I learned…
Without silence between notes, music would simply be noise
I’ve always thought about those quotes related to speaking. So often speakers are worried about what they’re going to say. We need to also be mindful about when we’re going to be silent and let the rhythm speak.
For example, here is one very small section of a story I tell about a speaking hero of mine. Listen for the silence:
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Welcome back. Did you hear it? There was a long silence between my notes and this affected my speech in several ways.
- When I became silent, my audience members began to experience my disappointment with me
- They also wondered what I would do (and what they would have done) in that situation
- It made them want to hear what was coming next
- It gave my audience time to catch up after my excitement and fast pace from intitially meeting my hero
- It made my audience look at my face (and other visual cues) to try to determine what I was thinking and where the story would go. This is an extreme benefit to taking silence.
Problem with Silence
One of the big problems with silence is that many speakers are afraid of it. They’re afraid their audience will tune out or think that the speaker has forgotten the speech.
In fact, think back to the silence you just heard in that audio. In one of my DVDs that includes that same story, the videographer actually edited the video and took out those several seconds of silence! I couldn’t believe it! I wanted to say, “Are you kidding me? That’s one of the most important parts of the story.” After all, I want music, not noise. So we had him put it back in. He probably saw the silence as an enemy. You should see it as your best friend.
The takeaway is to not be afraid of the silence. It will only give your speech the rhythm it deserves and provide your audience with an experience and a message they won’t soon forget.
My Question to you
If you too see speaking as being musical or rhythmic, how are you using that to your advantage?
Final Thought
“I’ve leave you with something more important than anything I’ve said today. I’ll leave you with this…”




One of my fellow Toastmasters once called me ‘a master of pauses.’ I’m an amateur; you, Craig, are the master. I look forward to hearing and meeting you at the District 38 conference on November 4th and 5th.
Hi Craig,
Interesting analogy. Now I understand what the speaking rhythm is.
What Ed said you mentioned reminded me of something all champs often brought up, “sameness”. It really made me take extra note on crafting materials.
Craig, this is brilliant!
I agree, people are scared of the silence. In fact, during my District Speech last year, one of my club mates, a Professional Speaker, said – Your silence was so long I thought you forgot your speech! (It wasn’t that long…and No, I didn’t forget it!:)
Funny thing is he said the same thing the year before about that year’s District’s Winning Speech!
Enjoying the silence….
I often remind myself and others of the power of the pause — that a well placed pause both before and after a poignant point, makes it really stick. It demonstrates great control, poise and confidence. Thanks (PAUSE) for the great reminder, Craig!
Thank you so much for the analogy of speech structure to song structure. I know I’ll remember it because you illustrated it so clearly. Ditto for the benefit of silence: listening to you and your audience reaction was critical to the point you made.
You share your speaking wisdom generously.
Best,
June
Thank you Tom! Maybe we can get together and pause for each other. lol
Thanks Cynthia. That sameness is sometimes difficult to fix but overemphasing the variety in rehearsal makes it just right when you take the stage.
Thanks Trisha! And even if they do think that we forgot the words, we still have their attention and they’ll be pleased with and relieved with what’s to follow.
You’re welcome Marion! I first learned it from Dale Carnegie but it still took quite a while to make it a habit. Keep up the great work.
You’re welcome June. I’ll keep sharing.
Thank You Craig
This was very helpful to me. Are you planning a New York City visit soon?
Thank you. I’m not sure the next time I’ll be in NYC but when I find out I’ll let you know.
Good post Craig. I love to listen to music, so the model of a song structure for a speech structure is easy to grasp. I’d add one little tweak, which is an introduction. I enjoy songs that don’t rush right into the first verse. Instead, I like the music to build up to the first point. Similarly, I tend to have more structured introductions than other speakers I listen to.
A few weeks ago, I attended a professional symposium where I gave one of the speeches. Some of the other speakers literally said “Thank you” and then jumped right into point number 1. I felt a little rushed. I wanted to say, “slow down and warm me up first. I’m in no hurry.”
BTW, at that symposium, the stage was set up with the lectern on the right and a long table with chairs along the front of the stage. I thought, “what would Craig say I should do with this.” During the break before my talk I went up and pulled the table back so that I could walk across the front of the stage without being behind a “barricade.” It actually felt more comfortable to be out front, and from the responses I received afterwards, the audience enjoyed it also.
During the Q and A, which was not at the very end of my speech, one lady was hard to hear. As I struggled to make out what she was asking, a thought popped into my head, “Craig would walk off the stage and over to her to hear what she had to say.” So I did. Functionally it helped, and it also showed the audience that I had a presence up front.
You say to highlight the process not the person, so I’ll say the tips and techniques that you share with us really do work. The process does work. Thanks for being willing to share.
Thanks again, Craig.
Craig, thank you I have thought about this but never was able to articulate it. This is so helpful, thank you again.
Hayward
Wow! I always knew there were similarities with speaking and music. Craig, you say and demonstrate it so well.
As a musician and composer, I know how important music form and structure is, as well as silence. In music notation, “Silences” are called “Rests” and even longer pauses have “fermatas” placed over them.
All of these added articulations indicate to the performer a way of expressing emotion and feeling. When you speak to an audience, you must take them on a memorable journey. It’s the same as what listening to your favorite music does to you.
Thanks, again, Craig. You say that singing is not your “forte,” however, to me, you are a world-class tenor.
Thanks Mark for sharing your experience. I’d say you definitely connected with them. Small actions make a significant difference as I’m sure you felt (and your audience felt it too). Keep sharing!
Thanks Robert. I’m completely fascinated by the similarities! Thanks for sharing.
Very good stuff, I love becoming a speaker and having the opportunity to learn from you and everyone else that I follow. You guys have opened the door and have made it so much easier. Thanks a million and that’s where i’m headed.
Craig this is a great post. This was very helpful. You have always been a inspiration to me and I look at your videos quite a bit to watch and learn. Thank you for attending the District 38 conference and sharing. I would loke to have you as a mentor as I pursue my dream to become a full-time public speaker. Any insight would be helpful. Thanks
Thank you Mike!
Thank you Larry. I appreciate the kind words.
You’re killing it on this blog, man.
Thank you Miles.
hi my self is manoj prajapati
i am try to spaeking in long lenthening style with rhythm.
please sir give me a style of speaking .
thank you
stameering